Where Confidence is Found

I went through a major fashion phase right after I got married. If it was on sale, cheap to me, and cute, I would ask Brad and buy it. Now that I look back on it, I have understood why. Fashion + clothes + shoes are tons of fun to me, and I ❤️ being creative with outfits. I have been that kind of girl before I could talk (just ask my mom), but it increased so much more after marriage…
I have slacked up buying clothes the past 6 months and haven’t bought much of anything except books (Brad and I are book nerds now🤓) and groceries.
It just dawned on me WHY I would buy clothes other than just liking them and being on sale. It isn’t because I had more closet space. I did have more room which was a bonus, but that wasn’t the reason. It also isn’t because I needed to give clothes away and make a wardrobe update. I did that too, but again, this isn’t the reason.
It’s clear to me now: clothes became my way of finding confidence. Being newly married, I felt a crazy amount of pressure to be a perfect wife and everything good I’ve read about. It was my way of gaining stability when my circumstances changed. I was seeing girls at church with the latest fashion trend on or fashion bloggers on my IG feed stating the must-haves for the season. I was looking to prove myself to people and finding confidence in clothes…🤦🏻‍♀️
You guys, it took me until NOW to figure this out. The message I need to get to you is this: look deep into your heart. Satan plants pressure there, little lies that don’t seem to be a big deal until they grow into a monster that tears your life away piece by piece. Harsh, I know. Confidence & stability when life is changing can only be found in Christ. Carefully monitor what you are allowing yourself to believe. You control whether you believe LIES or TRUTH, friends!

Author: countrymilefaith

Hey, y'all! I'm Emily, a simple country girl with a BIG love for the Lord, coffee, sunflowers, cooking, and gardening. I graduated from college one year ago in Secondary Agricultural Education, and I am now fulfilling my dream of teaching agriculture to high school and middle school students while also teaching science in the mix. I am happily married to my college sweetheart, Brad, who doubles as my ag teaching partner! We are newly weds, so we are just getting around to starting a farm. As we add animals to the Cooper Fam and complete projects, y'all will be the first ones to know. :) Tator is our sweet Goldendoodle puppy that we consider to be our first child, and he keeps us on our toes all the time. Between the demands of teaching and life, I enjoy writing and encouraging others in their walk with the Lord sticking tidbits of what I experience along this journey in my writing. I hope that you will follow along and that this blog will help your faith grow longer than a country mile!

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