That Time We Lost Each Other On the Honey-Moon

Where did Brad go?” I looked over my shoulder when I reached the bottom of one of the waterfalls, and he had disappeared. I stayed there admiring the view wondering where he was for awhile, and then, traveled back to where I thought I lost him. The trail broke into four different parts, so I lingered in that section for the longest time beginning to freak out after not finding him for 30 minutes. I started going up the mountain trail straight in front of me hoping he may be on it trying to find me, but there was only a 25% chance I would get it right. The trails were long and arduous, and I didn’t want to miss seeing any of these beautiful falls with him for the first time. I trekked for a 1/2 mile, & there he was…his arms were crossed and his eyes were glaring at me but he broke into a smile. My heart danced in my chest! “I found you!!” I exclaimed, loud and proud. “Emily, you left me. I walked over 2 miles looking for you!” Whoopsie…
I’m almost too adventurous for my own good to the point that I get lost in my intentions and goals that I forget about others on my way to the destination. Then, I have to backtrack to find where I went wrong. Don’t get so caught up in pursuing your dreams and goals that you forget about the people “following” you. You are a light and an example to everyone around you, so make time with them. Strong relationships and friendships don’t grow overnight. Besides, if you have no one with you when you make it to your destination, what good is in that?

What I Learned After I Said “Yes”

What I learned after I said “yes:”
1. Never let the significant other take God’s place.
2. Discuss decisions with your fiance because it will affect him/her in the future.
3. Admit you’re wrong when you know you’re wrong (I’m still working on this one).
4. Just trust that they will take care of you.
5. Don’t depend on him/her for happiness….they will mess up and have imperfections too.
6. Let them know your deepest secrets and struggles.
7. Say “I’m sorry.”
8.Tell them that you love them every single day because you can never overuse “I love you.” ❤
9. If you’re the girl, be submissive and don’t always try to be independent. This means just going with it even if you want to put up a fight (my struggle now). If you’re the guy, lead and provide for the girl.
10. Talk about finances together.
11. Even when you’re really stressed out about wedding planning, moving, remodeling a house, finding a job (all me right now lol), find ways to spend time with him. Being intentional about setting aside time to be with the one you love is critical no matter how busy or stressed out you may be!
12. Texting is the most terrible communication tool!!! If it is important, don’t bring it up through texting. Communicating with each other daily is extremely important and sets you up for marriage.
13. The wedding isn’t what matters in the end…the MARRIAGE of you and your future husband/wife is what is important!
14. If stuff goes wrong while wedding planning, give it to God and find a solution. Don’t cry and stress out like I did!!! I found this out the hard way. Even if it seems silly, God will listen and He’s there for you.
15. Praying for him/her and your future marriage and the current relationship is essential.

This is just the tip of the iceberg of what I learned while we were engaged. I hope that this can help you future husbands and wives out there!

Glimpse into Our Love Story

“No, I’m sorry. I’m busy with homework right now.” He was used to this response from me, but for some reason, he kept pursuing me. After being rejected three times within a two year time span, he was almost to the point of giving up. I pushed him aside and put him in that dreaded place we all know as the “friend zone.” I entered college with a broken heart from a recent break-up and far from home. I only knew four people, and I was afraid, timid, and off-standish. He was one of the four people I knew from my little neck of the woods attending the same college as me four hours away. Brad and I met while we were both in high school through FFA (Future Farmers of America), and we competed against each other in a couple different contests. I always saw him as the person I needed to beat to get to the next level although I always thought highly of him and recognized that he was a sweet, kind person. Whenever you come from small towns, those towns talk and word spreads like wildfire. Everybody really knows everybody, what they’re doing, and where they are. Thankfully, I knew Brad was already at the same college from around the same place, and it eased my mind. My parents always told me if I got into any trouble I needed to go see Brad, and he would take care of me. So I did…but it wasn’t because I was in trouble. We would go horseback riding from time to time, he would always offer to cook for me, and we would just talk to each other for a couple hours or so. As soon as I was confronted to make a decision about going out on a date with him, I kinda freaked out and backed away. I didn’t want to lose a good friend because of dating. I finally agreed to go on a date with him close to my junior year of college. Brad never TRULY had a girlfriend or dated anyone before he started dating me. He told me that when he saw me at college for the first time, he knew he was going to marry me. He waited, waited, and waited for me to give him a “yes” for a first date. He prayed for me during this time of rejection. What endurance, patience, persistence, faith, and LOVE! Can y’all imagine the hurt and pain of rejection and just waiting around for a prayer to hopefully be answered? I CANNOT. The beautiful hidden message behind our story is that Jesus watches us pursue worldly things. He knows some of us are keeping Him only in the “friend zone” when we need to have a more intimate relationship with Him. He’s waiting for us to call on Him for His guidance. Brad most certainly called to God to help him understand if he should keep pursuing me, and for that, I am so grateful. The Lord had His hand in our relationship from the beginning, and now, we are two months from being married. Don’t keep Jesus waiting to have a more personal relationship with Him. He looks down on our sinful lifestyles but is loving and forgiving when we ask Him for those things and turn away from it. I know that my Brad isn’t Jesus, but just as Brad was faithful and patient with me yet became discouraged and disappointed in me at times, he still chose to love me and pursue me anyway. Jesus is like that with us! Get Him out of that “friend zone” to go into a deeper relationship with Him.